Mommy kink, or age play, is a sexual or and romantic attraction to women who care for their partner in a maternal way. This type of foreplay can be intensely emotional and erotic.
However, like every kink, it’s important to communicate openly with your partner. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and are comfortable with it.
What is a mommy fetish?
A mommy fetish is a type of paraphilia that involves the act of being cared for or treated like a child. This could be sexual or nonsexual, and it is most often seen with women who are turned on by wiping their partner’s bottom or swaddling them in a white diaper. This kink can also include BDSM play with spanking and humiliating the “child” for their misbehavior.
Although these are taboo activities, they are perfectly safe to practice as long as there is consent and no physical harm comes to either party. Kinks are all about exploring hidden passions and desires, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be cared for in a motherly way. The difference between this and a daddy kink is that daddy kinks are based on guidance, while mommy kinks are mainly loving and nurturing.
What are the signs of a mommy fetish?
Mommy fetishes often involve role play, including age play, where the participant is regressed to infantile status and nurtured by their partner. This can be sexualised, or it may not even include sex. Many people who like mommy fetishes also enjoy a variety of kinks, such as oral and genital exploration. They may be turned on by being spanked, called naughty, or given a bath.
Some people like to use words like “mommy” or “daddy” to address their partners because they are turned on by being in a position of authority and having (consensual) control over their partner. Others are turned on by being smothered and coddled, which can be a form of sexual arousal.
There are a lot of kinks that can be woven into mommy play, and there is often a significant overlap with diaper fetishes as well. For example, some mommy fetishists get turned on by swaddling their man-sized little in a clean white diaper and then poking the nipple into his hungry mouth.
In some cases, a person who likes the mommy fetish has what is sometimes known as “mommy issues”. VeryWell Mind describes mommy issues as a lack of trust in feminine love and affection, and it can be rooted in childhood trauma or toxic relationships with their own mothers. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and fear of intimacy, which can manifest in the bedroom as mommy kinks.
What is the difference between a mommy kink and a daddy kink?
The mommy kink and the daddy kink are similar in some ways, but have some key differences. For one, the mommy kink is more about love and affection, whereas the daddy kink is more about power and authority. Mommy kinks are also more likely to be acquired, while daddy kinks are more hereditary.
People who are into a mommy kink tend to have a sexual/romantic attraction for women who care for them, protect them, and nurture them. They feel comfortable leaving all responsibilities and worries aside, being in the arms of their “mommy”, and being smothered with love. They are drawn to women who can give them endless attention in and out of the bedroom.
This kink can be explored with non-romantic partners, as long as it is mutually agreed upon and consensual. However, it’s best if the partner is familiar with the kink and understands what to expect. If they aren’t, it may be a good idea to take things slowly and introduce the experience gradually.
Mommy kink can be combined with many other kinks for an even more intense experience. Some examples of this include nipple play (as foreplay or the main event), cuddling, and breast feeding. Some mommy kink lovers also enjoy incorporating a bit of masochism into their experiences, such as getting licked and spanked by their “mommy”. All of this is done under consent and with the safety of the other person in mind.
How do I practice a mommy kink?
There are many ways to practice a mommy kink with your partner, and it will depend on what you both want from the experience. Some people may prefer gentle, caring foreplay or cuddling as a way to heat things up before making love. Others might like to call their partners by their “role names” or play with sex toys, such as a vibrator that simulates the feel of the nipples. Others might get turned on by regressing to infantile play, such as swaddling their partner in a diaper or disciplining them for bad behavior. Mommy kinks can also be combined with other kinks, such as fetish play and induced lactation.
While a mommy kink can be explored in sexual contexts, it is more often found in intimate, platonic relationships. Some people who experience stable and loving maternal attachments as children find comfort and pleasure in playing mother or being mothered by others. This is especially true for those who have experienced sexual abuse or trauma.
Whatever form your mommy kink takes, it is important to be open and honest with your partner about it. If you’re unsure how to approach it, consider consulting with a professional who can guide you and help you explore your options safely. Mommy kinks can be an excellent way to spice up a relationship, and there is no harm in exploring them if they make you happy.