It’s hard to accurately measure the exact percentage of women who are into BDSM or any other kink. But we can get some idea of it by looking at a few different sources.
Many people think BDSM is all whips and chains, but it goes way beyond that. So, why do women like BDSM?
They Get Off on Indulging a Taboo Fantasy
For women who like BDSM, the fantasy is about being able to indulge a taboo. They may fantasize about sex with a younger partner, for example. They may also have a fetish for masturbation or being squirted with a hose. These are all sexual fetishes that are often considered taboo.
Whether you are a dominant or submissive person, there are many ways to indulge a taboo fetish. It could be as simple as licking feet, worshipping leather or lycra, or having a voyeuristic and exhibitionist relationship (exposing your genitals to someone else without their consent).
Indulging a taboo can give you an adrenaline rush. It can be a form of catharsis and can help to relieve stress. It can also be a way to express your creativity and make you feel good about yourself.
According to research done by a sex therapist, people who indulge in BDSM tend to be happier than those who do not. They report lower levels of anxiety and depression, as well as a feeling that they are in control of their own lives. It is possible that they are releasing pent-up sexual aggression, which is often linked to childhood trauma and neglect. Another study, by researchers from Tilburg University, found that men who engage in BDSM report being less neurotic and worry less about rejection than those who do not engage in these practices.
They Love to Be in Control
Women who are into BDSM love to have control over their own sexual arousal, or even someone else’s. It gives them a thrill and adrenaline rush to know that they are in charge and have complete control. They often experiment with different types of kink to see what satisfies them the most.
They get a kick out of being a bad girl – The women who are into BDSM love to be a bit risky and wild. They like to be a little scary, and they aren’t afraid of being judged for it. These are the kind of women who love to live vicariously through characters in erotica novels and movies like Fifty Shades of Grey.
There is a lot of stigma surrounding the practice of BDSM. Despite the fact that it is not illegal to do, it is not widely accepted in our culture. This is why it’s important for couples who want to try this kind of play to communicate and establish boundaries. Moreover, it is also important to be aware of the risks involved in this type of sex and to make sure that they are fully informed. BDSM is an umbrella term that includes bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, as well as sadism and masochism. These activities can be gentle or rough, so it’s important to have a serious discussion about your partner’s preferences and what turns you on before engaging in these erotic acts.
They Love to Be Submissive
Many people who participate in BDSM love being submissive to their dominant partners. Whether it’s because they enjoy being teased and humiliated or simply want to be a “good girl,” being controlled turns them on. In fact, some women are so submissive that they may never talk back or challenge their Doms. They’re sometimes called “smart-ass masochists” and their kinky desires are often very sexual.
There’s also a lot to be said for BDSM as a way to alleviate stress and depression. Studies have shown that a submissive role can lower heart rate and blood pressure while releasing endorphins, which are natural pain killers. In addition to being a way to relieve stress, some people say they crave BDSM because it makes them feel powerful and independent.
While it’s hard to pin down exactly why people like BDSM, researchers can look at data from online dating profiles, porn preferences, and studies on asexuality. They can also study behavioral patterns, which can provide clues to what goes on behind closed doors.
They Love to Be Controlled
Before Fifty Shades of Grey, people with an interest in BDSM were often looked at as dangerous. The father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, described sadomasochism as one of the most significant perversions in his time and Wilhelm Stekel, another early follower, linked it to cannibalism, criminality and even mass murder. Today, though, a growing number of people have found that BDSM is not only normal, but very fulfilling.
Feminists and dominatrixes alike point out that BDSM play can help people learn to give and receive, and develop communication skills. They also say that it can be a great way to relieve stress and anxiety. It is also a way to explore fantasies that might be too intense or embarrassing to share in the real world.
In addition, BDSM can be very light-hearted. Many BDSM couples start out playing with low-key, benign forms of kink and pain like blindfolding, nipple clamps or wax dripping. Then they can progress to things that might be a little more risky and/or painful like spanking, bondage, cock or ball torture, medical play, suspension or even erotic asphyxiation.
Of course, there is a small percentage of people who crave BDSM because of mental disorder, but most do it because they love the feeling of bondage and control. And, as a bonus, it can be extremely pleasurable to feel controlled by someone who loves you back.
